The answer?
Well, it depends on whether you value being right all the time, and holding onto that anger from things that have already happened, over freeing yourself from that suffocating story.
Forgiveness does NOT mean you have to continue to put yourself in toxic situations. It is ok to to release some situations and relationships if they are causing you pain. And, when necessary and possible, accountability for all those involved. Recognizing and owning the pain we’ve caused helps to heal hearts.
But holding onto righteous indignation and that angry energy in the pit of your stomach is like hugging razor wire every time you think of how you’ve been wronged. It only destroys you from the inside out.
See if you can see those who have wronged you as human… fallible and filled with stories of their own. Stuck in their own old patterns and fears.
And those you may have wronged too, knowingly or unknowingly. You might not be able to make it right, but you can still ask for forgiveness for causing others pain.
And what about your forgiveness of yourself? Often the toughest type of forgiveness is for ourself, for perceived faults and failures, causing us to carry years of old guilt and shame. Holding onto that pain will only eat away at you and create more shadow stories, creating ongoing trauma that will show up at unexpected times and places.
Break that golden chain and set your heart free.
They deserve forgiveness. They are human. It does not condone what was done. It is simply an act of compassion for the humanness of us all.
You deserve forgiveness. You are human. You have made some choices which resulted in pain for others, or yourself, whether you meant to or not.
“Eventually you’ll find that you want to be free more than you want to be right.”
It’s time to be free.
Minding the Story 